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Posted: January 14, 2013 Filed under: pearls of wisdom | Tags: chance, communication, pearls of wisdom, risk 52 Comments »I was talking to one of my daughters about dating and she mentioned how odd it is that guys often like a girl but never ask her out. She said, “Isn’t the possibility of no better than the guarantee of having nothing?”
Such clarity of thought is precious. It made me think how often we are afraid to admit our desire or take steps to obtain it.
May you dare “No” to chase your dreams.
A pearl of thoughts and wisdom to start this week with. Our hopes and dreams are such a big part of who we are, that makes us in the way we are. How could we give up and not even try?!
I agree, some times I think we have “risk” filtered out of us.
Brilliant!!! A wise word and a fresh outlook on life!
Amen to that! I haven’t been daring No lately…thanks for the reminder!
It seemed to me from your posts, you were covering lots of ground.
Some of the ground may be just in my head! But one begins again every day…
yes, each day is a new chance.
How timely the moral.
funny how that works.
You have a wise daughter, Bill.
thanks — she is a deep thinker.
Besides, they’re missing spending time with a great woman by not asking her out.
Such a wonderful question that I never thought to ask myself. Thanks for sharing that.
I am glad you stopped by to read it, and that it was insightful.
That’s so wise!
our kids teach us alot. Even when they are little.
yeah for sure. Sometimes I feel they teach me more than I ever could teach to them. How are you Bill??
I’m good. Just had a biopsy today so just a little sore and waiting for news in a few days.
how are you?
Hope you get a good answer. Anytime I think brave, I remember you.
I’m good, been way too busy with uni.+work+kids and everything in between.Soon done, only left with thesis. Now it’s time to follow the dreams, and dare to not follow the crowd.
I just read your post and was going to post this there, but I”ll put it here:
“Some men see things as they are and say why – I dream things that never were and say why not.”
– George Bernard Shaw
Reblogged this on who is bert and commented:
great advise …
thanks Bert!
Intelligent and reflective thought.
Thank you Ellen, I am glad you stopped by.
So am I. Thanks to you and your daughter.
Bill -
good luck and best wishes with the biopsy.
In the meanwhile, although your daughter is straightforward and wise, it made me think that I hope the opposite is also true-
meaning, that a woman can approach a man when she’s eye-ing him and dare to ask him out even for a cup of coffee and risk a “no” rather than nothing at all.
The walk across the room or the wait for the phone to be answered or the text to be read feels like forever,and the beating of the heart gets louder by the moment but truth does go two ways – and not just in heterosexual relationships – but in love in general
Randy
Definitely a woman can, and should, risk a “no” from whomever. I did twice. The first time from a woman– a disaster that led to a breakdown and–years later– the second time, well, the man is beside me at this moment some 27 years later.
P.S. Blessings for the biopsy report!
thanks Ellen — I am glad you dared.
Thanks Randy, I agree the truth is bigger than just a relationship. It’s about dreams and daring to stand out from the crowd, or as Robert Frost might say “The road less traveled” – how often do we dare it.
perfectly said! great life lesson for all of us!
It seems to me you have dared to follow a dream. Well done.
why, thank you x
are you painting now ?
actually uploading photos of my art from the camera
cool! I look forward to it
Something I have learned now, but wish I had known it for certain from about 10 years old on.
Scott
yes, it takes us along time to learn some things.
I agree, but I also think that maybe they like the girl so much, that the thought of them turning them down would be un-bearable. They still have hope when they don’t tell the girl that they like her, but if they do tell her, and they get turned down, they don’t have any more hope.
( smile ) so you are happy with a boy who hopes to get to know you, but doesn’t ask you out ?
good plan, falling in love makes the IQ go way down. I recommend holding off until the second year of college
lol My dad would be thrilled
we homeschooled our kids, and my oldest went to HIllsdale college in Michigan. She called me on the third day, “Dad I found a boyfriend” — sigh
lol!!!!! That is hilarious!!!
so remember, second year!!!!
I’ll try!
God will send the right one for her if she waits on the Lord.
thank you, we pray that is so.
I was too often one of those guys in school. The girls I tended to go out with were ones that made it very, very easy for me to ask. I’m not suggesting they were girls of easy virtue, by any means–they weren’t–but they reduced the distance that I had to travel to build up the nerve to ask them out. That can be a stretch for some girls to do, but I like to think that most of the girls who made that stretch with me were glad they did. Sometimes their kindness is just enough to help a guy’s confidence build so it will be easier the next time.
Russ
When I was a junior, my neighbor Angie M, was a senior and brilliantly beautiful. Nobody asked her to the prom for fear she’s say no.
I had a girl at the time, but I must admit the thought crossed my mind