Control your breath, control your emotions.  Control your breath, control your fear.  When you fear, your body tenses, hormones pour into your blood stream and each breath comes quick and hard.

Stop!  Inhale deeply through your nose, feel the air go into you. Expand your lungs and abdomen, release it slowly, feel your lungs empty and repeat.  Experience each breath, and your heart will slow, your muscles relax, and your mind clear.   Control your breath, control your fear.

When your mind is clear  decide “Yikes, this is trouble”, or “I can get through this”. Only then take the necessary action.

In another life, with Master Mohr as Sifu, I learned many things. I am no longer a fighter, but I use this technique again and again.

When the doctor says “It is cancer”, or you are furious with a coworker, your daughter dents your car, or you know the test is going to hurt — control your breath.

28 Comments on “fear”

  1. ContactRida says:

    i am assuming you are still alive this being the first post i have read of yours. is it appropriate to say, “sorry about the cancer thing?” as a nurse i see so much that everything becomes just a thing from which you either carry on or let it consume you. so hope this finds you in a healthier state. i have not been able to control my breathing as of yet, but your post broke it down in a simpler way i could digest. thank you.

    • billgncs says:

      thanks – well, very well. The story might be:

      poetry assuages anger,
      talking turns away violence,
      and love really does conquer hate

      I liked your blog – bw

  2. I’m so very thankful you mentioned this one in particular. I am sending a heartfelt thanks and a smile your way. (smile)

    • billgncs says:

      Sifu Mohr showed me a great many things I never understood until many years later. I am glad you liked it.

      Here’s one more ( I could do this forever, I am very vain you know 🙂 )


      • I see no vanity…everything is as it should be…in sharing your thoughts and feelings you have the ability to impact lives around the world; what a beautiful, fulfilling purpose.

        • billgncs says:

          thanks, you are very kind.

          As for me, I haven’t been able to get a clean blood test for the “marker”, and my last test showed up something in anther part of my body, so now I go to a referral tomorrow, and hopefully this will be a false alarm.

          It’s really tough on my wife and kids.

          • I will not imagine to understand their pain or fear, it would be disrespectful of me, but I can extend my heart in their hurt. I will pray for you this evening. I hope you will message tomorrow and let me know how things are.
            Your mind must be a very busy place. In reading my posts you will know my best friend passed away at 36 years of age. It was almost 3 years to the day when she first became ill. The first time it was breast cancer, beat that. Second time, brain tumor, beat that. Third time, another brain tumor, and it was fast the last time. I spent a week with her the week before she died and spent another week with her family when she died. What I witnessed in terms of her families sorrow will never leave me. I did not mention this to instill fear, my purpose was to say how my friend Cindy spent more time thinking about others than she did herself, even in the week before she died….while your thoughts are busy, your main concern is your family. I respect your strength.

            • billgncs says:

              I think it is so tragic to lose a friend or loved one. But every day is precious, and when we waste one we do those who lost theirs a disservice.

              I also think that thirty years is a full life, and that in your first thirty you ought to have a story or two worth eating out over 🙂 — I have been on bonus time for many years.

              Courage is a funny thing. It is as elusive as nobility, I can’t for the life of me figure out how some manage it.

              I have been pretty good through the cancer, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t prone to deep deep melancholy, and when I get a cold, I am a total wuss 🙂 But mostly it seems to enjoy the day as much as possible is the thing to do.

              thank you for your kind thoughts, and prayers. I take comfort in them.

              • I’m glad we met. I’m not sure what our time differences are. Here it is 11:30 P.M. Sleep often evades me due to the dictates of my body; but I’m often around if you need an ear. (smiles)

                • billgncs says:

                  I am in central 10:32 PM – are you in pain?

                  • A vast amount these last weeks. I resist meds, much to the chagrin of doctors and only take them when I just can’t stand my body anymore. They have their place certainly (medicine) but until I have confirmation of what exactly is happening to me, I’m not about to fill my body with all these things. I pay a price for this decision, but it’s worth it to me. That’s why I blog so much; one, I’m home bound currently (maintaining hope) and reading posts is a distraction. Not to mention, I am constantly reminded to be thankful, there are others going through much worse than I. I am blessed. Today was very rough and last evening a bit emotional, some of my hair fell out. It was unexpected, and lacking explanation as to why, just like my condition. But, I got over it and off I go. No bald spots, just lots of hair, so I’m thankful for that. (smiles) In everything there is a positive.

                    • billgncs says:

                      I feel the same way. I rarely take more than a simple aspirin.

                      I had cronic pain in my hip ( an old horse riding accident compounded by rugby ) and know how chronic pain saps all the good-will out of you.

                      by the way, if you ever want to email, you can send to me at bill_gncs at hotmail dot com

                      you are very strong… but women are stronger than men on that stuff. 🙂

                    • Thank you for sharing that with me. I will email.

                    • billgncs says:

                      great — I am off to bed. Big test day tomorrow.
                      by the way – did you ever consider a second opinion at a place like the Cleveland Clinic in the US ?

                    • I am awaiting a test kit from the states, which should arrive this week and am awaiting an appointment with a doctor in Plattsburg, New York. My family is helping with appointments and research to help find answers. I’m blessed to be surrounded by love. But I am now going to keep this info handy once the aforementioned routes have been exhausted. The not knowing is the part that gets me. If I could simply understand what is causing all this, even if it can’t be stopped, I would feel better. blessings for tomorrow. I’ll be waiting to hear how it goes. Sleep well, I hope for you.

                    • billgncs says:

                      if you need to come to the states, we still have our cleveland house near the cleveland clinic, and could host you and a guest if that would help.

                      Or in Chicago where I am working at present, but I’m not sure what hospital here is as famous as the Cleveland Clinic.

                    • My friend, your generosity has made my entire evening. I will speak with my sister about this and see what our plans are. You have deeply touched me with your trust and offer. Thank you. You offer hope. Blessings.

      • I have been thinking about you and your family all day! How did things go friend?

        • billgncs says:

          well my youngest is off to France for the summer, my wife has returned to our Cleveland house to help get it on the market, and my oldest will drive down for the weekend.

          The doctor, who my primary physician recommended as a “rocket scientist type” which is always what I want, the best doctor – felt pretty that this is a false positive, but we will check it out. So one more test and maybe cancer free.

  3. cabecada says:

    When daughter dents your car and you know it is not her fault 🙂

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