My youngest daughter, beautiful, wise, free spirited and I had epic battles about her hair ( among other things ). She wanted it blue, or shaved, or a mohawk. Steadfastly I refused. The battle raged, and like water and wind shaping the cliffs along the shore eventually she wore my resistance away.

Then a funny thing happened. The world didn’t end because her hair was blue or pink. In fact, it looked cute, and when we were out she would often get complimented, especially by older ladies. “Dad”, she would tell me, “They like it because they wish they had done this when they were young.” I couldn’t disagree, although each time someone did that while we were out I would cringe and think “No, don’t encourage her!”

Next was the buzzcut, hair marine bootcamp short, and we went to bestcuts where the same stylist buzzed us both. Afterwards as I was paying the stylist asked if we were related since we had the same hair pattern. I just smiled and said, “What a coincidence.” Soon enough, I trimmed her sides for the much loathed mowhawk. And although she informed me that my future as a hair stylist was limited after she reviewed the handiwork, I saw that confidence and poise can carry any fashion.

Is there a point to these ramblings? I think so. We can learn from our children, we don’t always need to conform, and life is short and made for living. May you live, and laugh, and love, and learn.

I still keep my hair buzz cut short.

21 Comments on “hair”

  1. I loved this entry.

    Human, fearful, distressed, compromising, adult, fatherly, and loving – braced with courage.

    No, the world doesn’t end. It’s scary to go along with some of what our kids want. It was scary for my parents as I grew my Afro, long beard, torn shredded bell bottoms, leather bracelets (I hated trinkets), and went off to anti-war demonstrations.

    It is refreshing to read how you even reached the point of liking some of what she did, and how , in fact, that you felt that it even looked good on her (love your honesty – refreshing from a parent). Good things happen (sometimes, not all the time) when we let go of the reins a little with our parental supervision. I loved that you went with her. What a great parent moment to share – especially with a daughter.

    With all the fights and differences (ultimately, who cares?) it seems that the two of you must be very close, and respect and love each other deeply (whether you are aware of it or not).

    With smiles on my face,


  2. Eric Alagan says:

    I would love to sport a ‘mohawk’ even if it is for only a few weeks – problem is, I am pretty thin in the middle and if I did it > probably look more bald-hawk 🙂

  3. Yes, as a parent, if the worst thing I had to worry about was blue or buzzed hair, I would consider myself blessed! As it is, my daughter is way smarter than I was at her age so I am blessed anyway!

  4. emjayzed says:

    She sounds lovely & awesome! Got any pics she wouldn’t mind u sharing?!

  5. thirdplan8 says:

    Yikes! A mowhawk! I’ve always been afraid of those things!

  6. masquerade21 says:

    I love what your daughter said about the older women liking it because they wish they had done it when they were young.

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