have nothing

I was talking to one of my daughters about dating and she mentioned how odd it is that guys often like a girl but never ask her out. She said, “Isn’t the possibility of no better than the guarantee of having nothing?”

Such clarity of thought is precious. It made me think how often we are afraid to admit our desire or take steps to obtain it.

May you dare “No” to chase your dreams.

52 Comments on “have nothing”

  1. russtowne says:

    I was too often one of those guys in school. The girls I tended to go out with were ones that made it very, very easy for me to ask. I’m not suggesting they were girls of easy virtue, by any means–they weren’t–but they reduced the distance that I had to travel to build up the nerve to ask them out. That can be a stretch for some girls to do, but I like to think that most of the girls who made that stretch with me were glad they did. Sometimes their kindness is just enough to help a guy’s confidence build so it will be easier the next time.


    • billgncs says:

      When I was a junior, my neighbor Angie M, was a senior and brilliantly beautiful. Nobody asked her to the prom for fear she’s say no.

      I had a girl at the time, but I must admit the thought crossed my mind 🙂

  2. God will send the right one for her if she waits on the Lord.

  3. I agree, but I also think that maybe they like the girl so much, that the thought of them turning them down would be un-bearable. They still have hope when they don’t tell the girl that they like her, but if they do tell her, and they get turned down, they don’t have any more hope. 🙂

  4. Something I have learned now, but wish I had known it for certain from about 10 years old on.

  5. perfectly said! great life lesson for all of us!

  6. Bill –
    good luck and best wishes with the biopsy.

    In the meanwhile, although your daughter is straightforward and wise, it made me think that I hope the opposite is also true-
    meaning, that a woman can approach a man when she’s eye-ing him and dare to ask him out even for a cup of coffee and risk a “no” rather than nothing at all.

    The walk across the room or the wait for the phone to be answered or the text to be read feels like forever,and the beating of the heart gets louder by the moment but truth does go two ways – and not just in heterosexual relationships – but in love in general


    • Definitely a woman can, and should, risk a “no” from whomever. I did twice. The first time from a woman– a disaster that led to a breakdown and–years later– the second time, well, the man is beside me at this moment some 27 years later.

      P.S. Blessings for the biopsy report!

    • billgncs says:

      Thanks Randy, I agree the truth is bigger than just a relationship. It’s about dreams and daring to stand out from the crowd, or as Robert Frost might say “The road less traveled” – how often do we dare it.

  7. Intelligent and reflective thought.

  8. bert0001 says:

    Reblogged this on who is bert and commented:
    great advise …

  9. mindfuldiary says:

    That’s so wise! 🙂

  10. jolynproject says:

    Such a wonderful question that I never thought to ask myself. Thanks for sharing that. 🙂

  11. Besides, they’re missing spending time with a great woman by not asking her out. 🙂

  12. vbholmes says:

    You have a wise daughter, Bill.

  13. TheOthers1 says:

    How timely the moral.

  14. Amen to that! I haven’t been daring No lately…thanks for the reminder!

  15. Clanmother says:

    Brilliant!!! A wise word and a fresh outlook on life!

  16. A pearl of thoughts and wisdom to start this week with. Our hopes and dreams are such a big part of who we are, that makes us in the way we are. How could we give up and not even try?!

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