friendship and tolkien

I was thinking about the word friendship.

Maybe just as the word love, friendship is best a verb, something to be done. Instead friendship remains mysterious. How can one measure it? Does it change when friends fall apart or devolve to bitter rivals? If only we could squint our eyes and gaze through a crystal ball and see it as purest blue or bitter red.

Instead we assume and trust. Can friends exist who have never shared a meal, or visited each others homes, or labored on some task?

I thought back to Tolkien’s Frodo on the plains of Ithilien answering about Boromir who had betrayed him. “Yes, I was his friend, for my part.”

18 Comments on “friendship and tolkien”

  1. arjun bagga says:

    It’s perception eventually. What I consider my part, they assume it’s only a part of their expectation. Strangers though have an ability to offer us an experience of God’s presence.

  2. Bodhirose says:

    There are many people online that I’ve never met, shared a meal with or visited their home but consider them friends…the world has changed…big time! Also, when we think we know someone and can trust them and think of them as close friends…they prove otherwise. People can be fickle.

  3. bert0001 says:

    At a given moment, friends don’t talk much anymore, they appreciate each other’s presence. Whether that is by a very short phonecall, siting together around a warm stove, or by climbing a mountain together, it does not matter.

  4. I try not to, and don’t often, worry about definitions of nouns. Most of life seems transitory anyways.

    I have learned, and I now feel and believe, that what we experience and what we share today, whether through activity or through words, is all we really have.

    To the best of my ability, and it’s always a temptation, I limit judgments about past and current qualifications of my activities and relationships, as well as my future definitions, expectations, and qualifications of those activities and relationships.

    As we’ve all heard:
    yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery.
    All we really have is today


  5. Eric Alagan says:

    Strangers are potential friends
    Best friends are potential worst enemies
    Worst enemies are potential best friends
    I believe, it is skewed in favour of friendship

  6. Clanmother says:

    A very good question.We live a material existence and prefer the tangible nature of proximity and location. “for my part…” Tolkien had very deep thoughts on friendship. My favorite:

    โ€œFaithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens.โ€
    โ€• J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

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