of fires and miles

I was thinking about love the other day, not sure why, but my curse seems to be to ponder things I cannot understand.

A friend emailed me about loss and pain, and I was struck how we think that love that burns fiercely and brightly for a short time transcends all, but I realized that

Perhaps love is really measured in the distance we’ve come together – which is what makes it so precious.

and the love that burns long and true is hot enough to change our hearts forever. Which is truer ? I wish you the opportunity to discern the difference.

16 Comments on “of fires and miles”

  1. Yousei Hime says:

    Even engineers may measure and re-measure, but still not read things rightly. I married one, and to this day, he does not understand my heart. Then again, neither do I some days. Maybe better to ask can we ever know what is true. Is there an absolute truth? Uh oh, headed down a rabbit hole.

  2. Joyce says:

    Hi Bill, I like the post topic as it is one which can open up all sorts of thoughts and emotions and expressions from people with many different perspectives. I think that if one were to ‘measure’ love it would be the through the years, the times, the experiences shared together with one whom you love that would determine its measure. A long time ago I remember something that a well known Christian marriage counselor (Gary Smalley) once said about love. He said, “Love is a decision one makes to love another no matter what and through all they experience together. I liked that because I have found how true that is in many ways. And there goes the old cliche often said, “It was love at first sight.” right out the window. 🙂 That is merely a physical attraction and nothing more. One cannot truly love another by sight alone.They must allow themselves time and growing together as a couple to know how to nurture what they saw in each other. My husband and I have had 47 & 1/2 yrs together since marrying at the young age of 19, so if our experience and years together is enough to validate that theory that time together is needed to test it and nurture it then we are examples of that. 🙂

  3. vbholmes says:

    I like Eric’s reply–how can one measure love? For everyone, and every couple, the answer is different. That’s what makes the world go ’round. And Congratulations to you and Janet, Bill, on your thirty years of wedded bliss!

  4. susank456 says:

    Beautifully said, Bill.

    I’ve learned over the years that love is respect for each other, trust and faith. True love grows when you quit focusing on you and start focusing on us.


  5. Both thoughts ring true. It’s hard to pick one truth over another. True is true.

  6. I’ve never had that long love but have had that burns fiercely and brightly for a short time kind. It’s like it was a continuation of a wild love affair from a previous life, like we’d known each other forever, like when I was with him, I did not notice anyone or anything else and I learned a lot about myself and love.

  7. quiall says:

    My parents were married for 58 years, separated only by death. When my father was ill, just before he died. My mother visited him and I witnessed more love as they held hands than in any love story. They did not need to speak. just to love.

  8. Helena Hann-Basquiat says:

    Love is measured in the distance we’ve come together… I think this is brilliant, darling — it also explains why it hurts so badly when we lose someone we love, to death or just broken relationships — we feel the weight of that loss in terms of time and distance we’ll never be able to recover.

  9. Eric Alagan says:

    Hello Bill,

    The age old riddle – how does one measure love?

    Small drops over a long period – or, a huge chunk at one go?

    Perhaps, the question ought to be – can love be measured?

    Or, why even measure love – is it some competition, some comparator?

    I give up – as I’m too busy loving 🙂

  10. Clanmother says:

    Well said!!! 🙂

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